On Tuesday morning a beautiful little 7 pound baby boy,
named Gavin, was born to a girl who is like my sister, mommy and baby are doing
great! It seems like within the last two or three years more and more of my
friends are bringing little bundles of joy into this word. Back in March my best friend whom I have
known since we’ve been babies had a little girl, named Skylar. This got me
thinking… is this yet another step that I am missing?
Growing up I have seen the benefits and drawbacks of having
children at a young age and at an older age.
My mom had me in her early twenties. It was just me and her
for a while money was tight at times but we made by. We by no means have ever
been rich but we have always been happy, had a roof over our head, food in our
bellies, and shoes on our feet.
Eventually my mom was able to be a stay at home mom though out my
teenage years and for my siblings entire lives. I thought that this was nice
because I was able to do most things I wanted to because there she was always
available.
On the other hand my aunt waited until her early forties to
have children. My aunt focused on her career spending many years at a well
known sports arena she now holds a high standing position. My aunt has two beautiful twin girls but she
waited to become a mother. She has the
great house, car, clothes and is able to give the girls anything they could possibly
want (if they are well behaved and deserve it of course… we try not to spoil
the girls too much lol). But now that she has this high position it is more
difficult to play the working role and the mom role (not impossible… just
challenging at times)
So what does this all mean for me? Well besides the fact
that everyone says I should have been my aunt’s child right now I think I
rather follow in her foot steps and focus on my future career. I eventually want the house, and cars, and
vacations!
Don’t get me wrong I want children someday…. I do…. but not
anytime soon maybe more toward my thirties then twenties. Right now I am so
happy being these new little babies surrogate aunt. I love spoiling them and buying them all
types of presents but I do like that at the end of the day I can give them back
to their parents.
Coincidentally I had somewhat of a similar conversation about children yesterday with my girlfriend. My mother too had me in her early twenties, I just dont see that many people are having children that young any more. 30's seems to be the age range, women of course have the biolgogical clock to tend with which of I heard about yesterday from her. You aunt had twins in her early 40's, thats awesome. I used to think I was behind the ball when it comes to having a family because so many of my friends were having kids. What I realized at 34 is that everyone has a different time table and that what was going to happen was going to happen whether it was something or nothing at all. Great post.
ReplyDeleteThanks! Yes I am 24 and I agree it is all on an individual basis and I am happy for everyone who chooses to have children when they are ready for children but that is my thing I am soooo NOT ready :)
ReplyDeleteAt my work, several of my coworkers had children at a very young age. In fact one of them became a grandmother at only 36 years old!
ReplyDeleteShe has told me stories of the difficulties of her younger years having a baby at 19. I think it is definitely important to at least wait until schooling is finished before having a baby.
Wow a grandmother at 36? That is crazy! But I agree and that is the plan for me at least to be done with school!
ReplyDeleteI think it is awesome that you are really thinking about what you want for your future and how children fit in to the equation.
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