Going to the Chapel..... Again?!?

Last summer I went to five different weddings that is double how many I had been to previously. This summer I am in two weddings and going to one more! 

In my previous post I talked about a bunch of my friends are having babies well they are also getting married! 

This weekend was one of my best friend’s wedding shower and it was beautiful! Also it is crazy to me how much kitchen stuff you get at a wedding shower…. I did not know that a person would need that many kitchen utensils. 

Not that I think I am getting marred any time soon but in going to all of these weddings I have definitely started to formulate opinions on what I would like or not like in my future wedding.  

I use to think that I wanted the big huge wedding with everyone whom I ever encountered invited. Well then I found out how expensive it is… $50 per person… Yikes! I think now after seeing the variety of different size weddings I would like something smaller so that it feels more personal. 

Another thing that I have learned and need to remember is to not get caught up in the small details and to really invest your time, money, and efforts to the things that really matter to you.  For example, at a typical wedding a person would normally find grandiose flower arrangements but my thoughts on it are why are they so important when they are just thrown away the next day.  Some may say that it is important because of the look it gives the ceremony and that is fine but like I said put your energy in to the details that really matter.  

All in all from all the weddings that I have recently been a part of and I am sure the ones to come; what truly matters is that at the end of the day the wedding is about the couple and celebrating their love for one another.  I am glad that I can be a part of their celebration.

Stay away Stork!

On Tuesday morning a beautiful little 7 pound baby boy, named Gavin, was born to a girl who is like my sister, mommy and baby are doing great! It seems like within the last two or three years more and more of my friends are bringing little bundles of joy into this word.  Back in March my best friend whom I have known since we’ve been babies had a little girl, named Skylar. This got me thinking… is this yet another step that I am missing? 

Growing up I have seen the benefits and drawbacks of having children at a young age and at an older age. 

My mom had me in her early twenties. It was just me and her for a while money was tight at times but we made by. We by no means have ever been rich but we have always been happy, had a roof over our head, food in our bellies, and shoes on our feet.  Eventually my mom was able to be a stay at home mom though out my teenage years and for my siblings entire lives. I thought that this was nice because I was able to do most things I wanted to because there she was always available. 

On the other hand my aunt waited until her early forties to have children. My aunt focused on her career spending many years at a well known sports arena she now holds a high standing position.   My aunt has two beautiful twin girls but she waited to become a mother.  She has the great house, car, clothes and is able to give the girls anything they could possibly want (if they are well behaved and deserve it of course… we try not to spoil the girls too much lol). But now that she has this high position it is more difficult to play the working role and the mom role (not impossible… just challenging at times)

So what does this all mean for me? Well besides the fact that everyone says I should have been my aunt’s child right now I think I rather follow in her foot steps and focus on my future career.  I eventually want the house, and cars, and vacations! 

Don’t get me wrong I want children someday…. I do…. but not anytime soon maybe more toward my thirties then twenties. Right now I am so happy being these new little babies surrogate aunt.  I love spoiling them and buying them all types of presents but I do like that at the end of the day I can give them back to their parents.